Counseling Corner: Keep Your Anger From Controlling You!

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We live in a world of high stress and tension. Whether it's bad economic news, local reports of growing crime rates, that traffic jam that made us late this morning, or a boss who never understands or appreciates us, we face lots of things that make our lives stressful.

Unfortunately, for many people, the stress and tension of daily life can build to the point that it only takes one small incident for them to explode, letting their anger get out of control.

Experts say anger is the most poorly-managed emotion in our society, with as many as one in five Americans having an anger control problem. Not being able to manage one's anger is a major cause of conflicts in both professional and personal relationships.

Is it a problem for you? One way to judge how well you control your anger is to consider whether you've ever, during an argument: raised your voice; broken something; pushed, slapped or physically hurt someone; embarrassed yourself; or felt out of control.

If any of those apply, you might consider some actions to help you better manage your anger:

   
  • Accept responsibility for your anger. Anger may be triggered by someone else, but it's you who lets it happen and grow out of control.
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  • Learn to recognize the beginning signs of anger. Anger is easier to control when emotions are still at a low level.
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  • Try to identify the cause of your anger. It isn't someone else, but rather something within you, emotional or psychological from your past, that's usually the real source of your anger.
  • Focus on the situation or behavior making you angry, rather than the other person.

  • Criticizing or name-calling doesn't resolve a problem but merely escalates it. Rather than putting the other person on the defensive and raising the conflict level, use "I" statements to talk about what you're feeling and experiencing.
     
  • Learn to listen and communicate more effectively. Too often situations that lead to an angry outburst are simply the result of not understanding what was said, or not expressing yourself clearly and calmly.
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    Anger should never control you. When it does, it can make your life miserable, lead to very real problems and even affect your health. If your anger is sometimes out of control and causing you problems, consider an anger-management course (your local hospital or mental health center may offer one), or consulting a counseling professional offering anger-management help.

    The Counseling Corner is provided as a public service by the American Counseling Association, the nation's largest organization of counseling professionals. Learn more about the counseling profession at www.counseling.org.
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    Former Harry's Supermarket Under Construction for Restaurant

    By Brittany PolitoiBerkshires Staff

    PITTSFIELD, Mass. — Construction is underway to transform the former Harry's Supermarket into a restaurant

    Late last month, the Conservation Commission greenlit some tree pruning on the property. New windows and a new door can be seen in the front of the building. 

    "It's a substantial renovation that's currently underway here," Brent White of White Engineering said, speaking on behalf of the applicant and owner, Huajie Zhu. 

    A fire gutted the longtime Wahconah Street supermarket in 2023, and the following year, Zhu purchased the property for $460,000 two years ago to build a restaurant with hibachi in the existing footprint of the more than 100-year-old building. 

    White explained that the project has been ongoing for over a year, and the Community Development Board granted the property a waiver to reduce the minimum required number of parking spaces so that additional spaces aren't needed.  

    He noted that, looking at the site plan, there is very little room to do so. A mirror will be installed near the sharp turn on Bel Air Avenue to alleviate traffic concerns. 

    Pruning will be done on trees in the southeast corner of the existing paved parking lot, as a number of branches are hanging over. The new owners also intend to patch, sealcoat, and re-stripe the parking lot. 

    A fire tore through the building less than an hour after the supermarket closed for the day three years ago. An automatic sprinkler system is required for the new use. 

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