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Daily DigestYuck!
 There's a winter storm warning in effect until 7 a.m. on Thursday with 2 to 4 inches of snow expected. Be prepared for a messy morning commute as freezing rain and sleet move through the region. The morning commute will be slippery — drive careful!
Some New York schools, including Hoosick Falls Central School and St. Mary's Academy in Hoosick Falls have already canceled classes.
All North County schools are closed; Pittsfield, Lanesborough, Berkshire Hills, Southern Berkshire and Central Berkshire school districts are closed. |
Duff'em If You've Got'em
 North Adams Regional Hospital went smoke-free Monday — so did all its sister sites, from Sweet Brook to Northern Berkshire Family Practice to the Women's Exchange. No ashtrays, no smoking: No butts about it. |
Wanted: Eagle Eyes
MassWildlife's annual eagle count runs Dec. 31 to Jan. 14. Anyone sighting one of the regal birds in Massachusetts is asked to participate.
Send date, time, location and town of eagle sightings, number of birds, whether juvenile or adult and observer's contact information to Mass.wildlife@state.ma.us. |
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Counseling Corner: Aim For A Family Gathering With Less ConflictBy the American Counseling Association - November 16, 2008
For many families, the Thanksgiving holiday offers a special opportunity to gather and renew family ties. Unfortunately, many families find the holiday more an opportunity to gather and renew family squabbles and fights.
While any gathering can hold the potential for disaster, there are ways to decrease the chances of conflict and to increase the odds of enjoying the event yourself.
A first step is to begin with realistic expectations. Norman Rockwell's perfect Thanksgiving family may exist somewhere, but for most families the reality usually isn't the idealized images the media and advertisers show us over and over.
Expecting perfection from your holiday get-together almost guarantees you're going to be disappointed. Problem friends and relatives don't change just because the holiday season arrives or you want them to. In fact, the only person you can ever really change is yourself.
Relatives who are usually critical, argumentative or drink to excess, will be exactly the same this year. So try to be realistic in understanding what you can do and change, and what things are simply beyond your control.
If you're the host, for example, and have parts of your family warring with each other, try inviting one group for Thanksgiving, and the others for your next celebration. House rules, such as no-smoking or a no-alcohol party, can also help if those activities make you crazy or lead to problems every year.
If the holiday celebration is one you're traveling to, and dreading, look for ways to minimize potential problems. Maybe a shorter visit, or staying at a hotel instead of the family home, or being careful to avoid that always argumentative relative might be good choices. Try "self-talk," where you actually talk to yourself about potential problems and helpful solutions.
It also helps to remember that you, as well as your relatives and friends, have likely changed, perhaps in major ways, since you've last been together. It isn't realistic to expect someone who sees you only once a year to understand what that job loss, or divorce or other major life event has meant to you. Just accept that they no longer know the real you of today.
Most of us don't have perfect, "Martha Stewart" holiday gatherings, but if you're realistic with yourself about your expectations, and ready to accept that you're not going to be able to change other people, you can find ways to enjoy even the most family gatherings.
The Counseling Corner is provided as a public service by the American Counseling Association, the nation's largest organization of counseling professionals. Learn more about the counseling profession at www.counseling.org. |
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